If the romance in your relationship has been lacking lately below are a few simple steps to add the spark back into your relationship:

1. Give your mate your undivided attention. Let the phone calls go to voice mail; turn off the TV; pull yourself away from email and the computer.

2. Schedule a date night. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, new and old couples need a night just to themselves. If you have kids, find a reliable babysitter. Do what you have to do so you and your mate can keep the flames burning. Keep in tune to what attracted you to your mate in the first place.

3. Allow your mate some “me time.” Everyone needs to spend time away from their mates—whether it’s to read, a long hot bubble bath, a trip to the spa, hanging out with friends, or just quiet time alone. Believe it or not this can help your relationship.

4. Give a card, send an email/text message or make a phone call “just because.” Don’t wait for special holidays or birthdays to show that you care. Do something every week, if not every day to let your mate know you’re thinking of them. And not out of any obligation, but because of your genuine affection towards them.

5. Share a part of yourself that you don’t share with anyone else. This helps create a special bond and should bring you closer.

6. Make a customized CD with both of your favorite songs. Don’t forget to make duplicates so you both can have a copy in your cars.

These are only a few ways you can add spark back into your relationship. Remember to take the time to REALLY get to know your mate’s likes and dislikes. Don’t be afraid to cater to their needs.

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Shelia M Goss is the author of six romance novels, including His Invisible Wife, My Invisible Husband and Hollywood Deception. For more information, go to www.sheliagoss.com.