Staying in Love

I’ve been married to the same man for more than a quarter of a century. I like to say it that way because it sounds like a longer time than more than twenty-five years. LOL We married in our teens, and have beat the odds. Not only are we still together, we still like each other!

So, how do we stay in love?

We make our relationship a priority. We work together. We are frequently in the midst of one household project or another and we garden. We heat with wood in the winter, so we go out and get the wood, then I split it and he stacks it. (I like splitting it…my arms look better now than they did when I was in my teens! LOL)

But we don’t just work. We geek date.

What’s a geek date, you ask?

Well, anything that makes my kids roll their eyes when I say we had a ‘date’ pretty much qualifies. LOL We walk the dogs together every evening. We grocery shop at Wegmans most weekends together. Now, this might not seem like a big date, but if you’ve ever been to a Wegmans, you get it. They’re a fun grocery store, with tons of new things to try. Coffee. Bagels. Oh, yeah, it’s a great date!

We also antique. I have a lovely collection of Halls China and have recently started collecting stoneware. But the biggest glee has been furnishing our formal living room with antiques. And since we’re out antiquing together, each item comes with a story. For instance, the beautiful Ethan Allen corner cupboard was one of my dh’s best haggles…ten dollars. Not only is it pristine, but it looks as if it was built for the corner.

Over the summer, we did some special outings as well. One of the coolest was spending a day on the Brig Niagara…Erie’s reproduction of the Perry’s ship on the Battle of Lake Erie.

Okay, does any of that constitute a magic recipe for a happily-ever-after? No. Would it work for other couples? Maybe not. I guess my point is, to create a happily-ever-after your own. Find your own inner-geek dates. Something that the two of you can do together. More importantly, something you can enjoy together.

I don’t think that a happy marriage is because of big things. I think it’s more of the little things. Walking the dogs, shopping at Wegmans, an outing on the Brig Niagara… It’s finding what things work for both of you!

Holly Jacobs

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About the author

More than a million and a half copies of Holly Jacobs’ books have sold worldwide. Her category romances have made Walden’s Bestseller List and won numerous awards such as the National Readers’ Choice Award, Holt Medallion, Bookseller’s Best, Golden Quill, Golden Leaf, More than Magic and Madcap Awards. She’s won two of Romantic Times’ Reviewers’ Choice Awards and also won their prestigious Career Achievement Award for Series Love and Laughter. She’s presented more than forty workshops across the U.S. on a variety of writing related subjects from writing romantic comedy to time management. Both subjects frequently come into play in her non-writing life. You see, Holly’s married to a police captain and together they’ve had four children.

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Life happens…and then life really happens!

Teacher Eli Cartwright has it all figured out—the career, the reliable boyfriend and the next few dependable decades. But life has quite a sense of humor, it seems, since her perfectly ordered existence has been completely upended. Because now Eli is counseling pregnant teens—with an unplanned pregnancy of her own!

So Eli is single, terrified…and exuberant. And her colleague, Zac Keller, has never been more attracted to her. But can he convince Eli that life sometimes offers more than one unexpected gift at a time?

9 Months Later: It’s not what they’re expecting

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For years, Nana Vancy Bashalde Salo believed that she’d cursed her own family to bad weddings. Now that the curse is broken, she’s bored. Her best friends, the ‘Silver Bells,’ convince her to try her hand at matchmaking. And Nana has just the person in mind, Salo Construction’s new office manager, Eve Allen.

Eve is coming out of a bad relationship and longs for a little quiet and order. That’s definitely not in the cards with Nana Vancy around. And it’s even less possible when Nana tries to hook her up with TC Potter, a boy who broke her heart in kindergarten when he told her there was no Santa, and then broke it again in 9th grade when he stood her up for a dance. Eve’s heart still healing from her last bad relationship, she doesn’t need it broken by TC for a third time.

Freelance writer, TC Potter makes his living by writing articles about Every American Man. His life was pretty much perfect until he was named one of America’s most eligible bachelors last year. He’s spent the last twelve month hiding out from women who’d like to de-bachelor him. Now he’s finally met someone he’d really like to date, but Eve’s not interested. But maybe with a Hungarian grandmother’s help, and a little Christmas magic, he can convince her that they have something too special to ignore?

Rejoin the Salo family in Everything But a Christmas Eve and discover if Nana Vancy really does have some Hungarian magic!